I don’t want to be rude, but sometimes I have to say goodbye four and five times before she finally acknowledges that I must end the call. It irritates me. I like talking to her, but I can’t go on and on forever. How can I make her let me off the phone without hanging up on her or upsetting her?
Mr. Nice Guy
Dear Mr. Nice Guy: The person you’re describing obviously has less going on in her life than you do. She may also be a compulsive talker.
The next time you talk to her, make the conversation face-to-face and tell her that as much as you like her, you don’t have the amount of time to spend on the phone that she does. Explain that when you tell her you must end the conversation, if she doesn’t stop talking within five minutes, you will have to hang up. And then do it.
Will she like it? No. But the alternative is that she will continue to take advantage of you — which she has been doing because you have allowed it.
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