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May 17, 2014

Dear Abby: Being boy’s second choice diminishes prom appeal

Dear Abby: I was invited to my first prom yesterday. The boy is a senior and the son of a friend of my mom’s.

We have a lot in common. We have been friends for years and compete against each other in academics. The problem is, he asked a close friend of mine to go to the prom last week, and he did it right in front of me.

My friends, including the girl who said no, keep telling me he really does like me, even though I was apparently his second choice. The trouble is, I already said yes and I don’t want to go back on my word. How do I keep myself from feeling like a consolation prize?

Second Best

Dear S.B.: The boy who asked you to the prom wants to have a good time. As you said, you are friendly and have a lot in common. Please don’t let the fact that he asked your friend first get in your way. It’s not a contest for anyone’s affection; it’s only a dance.

Dear Abby: I met an amazing lady. She’s beautiful, sexy, charming, attentive, classy, smart and conservative. In short, she is almost everything a good man would ask for in a woman except for one thing — she’s a tad clingy, and in some instances, it is annoying.

I’m the type of guy who loves my space. She seems to respect it, but gets a little down when I decline an offer to spend time. To avoid hurting or offending her, I sometimes just do whatever will make her happy, although it feels like a chore. Don’t get me wrong, I’m physically and mentally attracted to her, but I’m not sure about the emotional part.

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