I am engaged to be married next summer, and I need to decide who should walk me down the aisle. I’d like my grandfather to have that honor, but I don’t want to hurt my father by not asking him to do it.
What should I do when the time comes to make the decision?
Nameless In The Midwest
Dear Nameless: Consider asking both of them to walk you down the aisle. I’m sure it would touch not only their hearts, but also those of your guests to see you honor your grandfather, who was your “weekDAY father,” as well as your dad, your “weekEND father.”
Dear Abby: Organized religion has caused me many difficulties throughout my life. I would like to distance myself from it as much as possible. I consider myself a “religious independent.” I believe in God, but I don’t believe organized religion has anything to do with God.
My question concerns my funeral. Since a funeral is an organized religious ceremony, is it possible to have one without clergy being present? Have you heard of anything like this, and what would you suggest?
Washington, D.C., Reader
Dear Reader: Instead of a funeral, many people choose to have a “celebration of life,” independent from religion. Make sure your family and friends understand your wishes, then talk to a funeral home director and make pre-planning arrangements.
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