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June 3, 2014

Dear Abby: Think twice before confronting drivers in handicapped spots

Dear Abby: I suffered a serious accident at work and have endured numerous surgeries, with another on the horizon. Because the injuries are in the cervical and lumbar areas, they are not visible.

Last week, I parked my car in a handicapped spot in the supermarket parking lot. Having a proper tag on my license plate, I didn’t think twice about it. As I entered the store, a woman who had parked nearby started shouting at me, saying I shouldn’t have parked where I did. I indicated she should read my plate, to which she then replied that I was “phony” for taking advantage of the system. I imagine she thought this because I was walking unaided that day.

Abby, please inform your readers that not all injuries are visible and not to assume that someone is taking advantage because he or she doesn’t meet your expectations of how a disabled person “should” appear.

Hurting In Northern California

Dear Hurting: Gladly. This subject has appeared in my column before. You are correct that not all disabilities are visible. One that comes to mind would be a heart problem that prevents a patient from walking long distances. Another would be multiple sclerosis.

Readers, if you are concerned that someone is gaming the system, rather than confront the person, write down the license number of the car with the handicapped plate and inform the Department of Motor Vehicles. If you are correct, the authorities will be interested in that information. And if you are not, you won’t have caused someone who already has problems additional distress.

Dear Abby: I have been married to “Gilbert” for more than 30 years. We have always managed to resolve our differences in a relatively short time, but this time I’m not too sure.

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