I have offered to pick my grandson up from day care once a week and keep him until Annie finishes her workout. My other daughter has offered to pick him up twice a week so he can play with his cousin at her house.
Annie has become defensive. She says we’re offering because we think she’s neglecting him. Actually, I DO think so. It breaks my heart that my grandson spends 12 hours a day in day care. Do you agree with me? What should I do?
Worried Granny in the Southwest
Dear Worried Granny: Annie may be defensive because she feels some guilt, or because you need to become a better actress and transmit less disapproval.
Apologize to her if that will smooth things over. Explain that you would like Cooper to spend time with you because you love him and want him to develop warm childhood memories of his grandmother. Tell Annie that her sister wants him to spend time with his cousin so they will have a closer bond when they’re older. Then cross your fingers and hope she’ll accept the offers.
Dear Abby: What is your definition of a committed relationship?
Trying For One in Texas
Dear Trying: A committed relationship is one in which both parties agree that it will remain mutually exclusive.
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