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October 9, 2012

Dear Abby: Wife’s surprise travel plans throw husband for a loop

:Dear Abby: Many women like surprises. Most men don’t. My wife can’t understand that. She recently “surprised” me by informing me she had made nonrefundable arrangements for us to visit a foreign country. She said I had once mentioned that I’d like to see it. I have no recollection of saying so, but I suppose it’s possible.

Abby, I am physically barely able to endure such travel. My balance is bad, and walking is extremely painful for my legs and hips. I wish she would have discussed her plan with me in advance. It’s possible she wanted very much to go and suspected I’d tell her it would be unwise for me to do it.

Now that we’re locked in, I’ll go. But if it becomes too arduous, I’ll tell her that we’re going to have to leave the group and return home immediately. Perhaps that would help her understand that she should talk to me about a plan that includes me before implementing it. Abby, can you comment?

Got an Unwelcome Surprise

Dear Surprise: What your wife did was wrong; she’s well aware of your physical limitations. Foreign travel isn’t cheap. Before laying out sizable chunks of money, most couples discuss the expense. I think your method of handling the situation is a good one, particularly if no accommodations can be made for your disability by the company arranging the trip.

P.S. I’m advising you to get travel insurance well in advance.

Dear Abby: I’m in love with a beautiful woman. She’s divorced with two kids, 15 and 17. I believe the 15-year-old boy is feeling threatened by my presence. He has become very “clingy” to his mother and tries to get between us.

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