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July 3, 2013

Dear Abby: Brother-in-law’s kisses leave sister in a fury

:Dear Abby: My brother-in-law, “Dave,” has twice kissed me passionately when my sister was not around. I made light of it and pushed him away. The third time it happened was when he came to my house to do a little repair job for me. That time he also grabbed my breast. I exploded and told him off.

Later on, Dave called and said he was going to come back to do some other things that needed attention. I told him he was not welcome in my house and that I’m furious he would do such a thing. He apologized and said he hoped I could forgive him.

I am so angry! I no longer want to be in his company. I also don’t like that I have to keep his behavior a secret from my sister. I haven’t told anyone, and it is keeping me up nights. Please help.

:Fuming In Florida

:Dear Fuming: Your mistake was in not setting your amorous brother-in-law straight the first time he made a pass at you. Because you didn’t, he thought his advances were welcome.

Now that you have made plain to him that you’re not interested, you will probably have nothing more to worry about. But you are wise not to have him over unless your sister is with him.

I don’t blame you for being angry, but do nothing until you cool off. The question then will be whether to tell Sis that her husband behaves inappropriately and how you know.

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Dear Abby: I recently moved back to my home state and in with my grandmother to get away from my abusive husband. I have also filed for divorce. I love my grandmother dearly, but when it comes to the divorce or the therapy I go to weekly, she is not understanding and constantly brings up what he did to me.

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