Help is available for you if you are open to it. Staying where you are is not an option because if you do, this man could kill you.
Dear Abby: While riding with my new boss to a sales appointment, he needed some information from his company-issued iPad. He asked me to turn it on and gave me the passcode. When I did, up popped a porn site. He almost wrecked the car grabbing the iPad from me.
Not another word was said until we arrived at the appointment and he looked up the item prior to going in. Nothing has been said about this incident since.
Every time I think about my boss having gone to that porn site before I touched the iPad, I get sick to my stomach. HE makes me sick. Do I resign or stay?
:Grossed Out In Ohio
:Dear Grossed Out: If the nausea is affecting your ability to perform your job, you should quit. But before you do, be sure you have another one lined up. And when you interview, as tempting as it may be, refrain from saying anything negative about your boss because to do otherwise will reflect poorly on you.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend wants to open the door for me when I am the one driving. I’m thrilled that he wants to be a gentleman, and I love when he opens the door for me when I am in the passenger seat or in front of any other door, as he always does. I am just not comfortable with it when I’m the one who’s driving. It seems awkward to me. Your thoughts?
:At A Loss In Colorado
:Dear At A Loss: Your boyfriend may do this because he wants to please you, or he was raised this way. Personally, I think what he’s doing is endearing. However, because it makes you uncomfortable, explain that it “isn’t necessary” and you would prefer he not do it when you are the driver.
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