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September 26, 2012

Dear Abby: For a swinging good time, wife may have to divorce

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Dear Abby: I have been married for 10 years. Early in our marriage, my husband talked about wanting to try swinging. We did, and had many enjoyable experiences.

Two years ago, he decided he no longer wanted to be in the lifestyle, so we stopped. The problem is, I miss it very much. I want to get back into it and have talked with him about it, but he insists we stay out of it. I am torn between going to parties behind his back, suffering my displeasure in silence because I’m not able to do something I really enjoyed, or divorcing. Can you help me figure this out?

Foxy in Phoenix

Dear Foxy: Let’s review your options as a process of elimination. I don’t recommend that you do anything behind your husband’s back because, at some point, what you’re doing is sure to come out. I also do not recommend suffering in silence because sooner or later your unhappiness will become apparent.

That leaves the option of divorce. Because you and your husband no longer see eye to eye on the issue of marital fidelity and he wants a wife who will “cleave” unto him only, it makes sense to go your separate ways so both of your needs can be met.

Dear Abby: The other day when I went jogging, I met a guy just as I stopped to take a water break. He started flirting and I was too tired to tell him to leave, so I decided to humor him until I cooled down enough to resume my jog.

He asked me basic questions trying to get to know me, and when I told him I was a college student, he asked for my GPA. When I told him it was none of his business, he laughed and asked what my problem was. He said no one else had complained when he asked, and he didn’t mean to pry. I still felt he was being rude, so I said goodbye and jogged off before he could say anything.

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