How do I approach the subject in the most effective way? I know that when I do, he will be mad, but it’s not the first time that STDs have been a problem in our relationship. Help!
Thinking Of My Health
:Dear Thinking Of Your Health: One would think that a man who loves his wife would want to be absolutely POSITIVE that he wouldn’t give her a sexually transmitted infection. However, because your husband has given you one before, it is perfectly logical that you tell him it is the reason you want him to be tested before resuming your marital relationship.
Dear Abby: I’m a single 32-year-old who lives across the country from my family. I have two sets of grandparents who both send me birthday and holiday cards containing checks.
The problem is, I earn close to six figures, which is far more than my grandparents’ income in retirement, and I have only myself to support. I typically shred their checks when I receive them.
Should I continue to do this, or should I tell them that as much as I appreciate the sentiment, a simple card would be fine?
:Secretly Shredding In Seattle
:Dear S.S. In S.: When a check isn’t cashed, it is obvious to the check writer, and it can cause problems in balancing the person’s checkbook. I think your solution to tell them you no longer need the checks is a good one.
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