:Dear Abby: I work in a cubicle in close proximity to my co-workers. I can’t help but hear everything. A co-worker who sits next to me is driving me crazy. She spells her name wrong to customers every day, 20 times a day. She also makes seductive moans during the day. I almost want to peek over the cubicle to see what she’s doing.
When I have mentioned to her that perhaps she must spell her name so often to customers because she’s spelling it wrong in the first place, her retort is, “No, I don’t!” Everyone in the office can hear her, too. They think it’s funny.
Abby, she’s making me crazy. Should I record her for a few hours and play it back? Unless I do, she won’t believe she does it. By the end of the week, I can hardly speak to her. Please help.
Tortured in Orange, Calif.
Dear Tortured: Although your co-worker may seem to spell her name wrong to you, there are variations on the spelling of many names (i.e., Jeannie-Jeanne, Shari-Sherry-Cheri, Brian-Bryan, Steven-Stephen). The spelling of someone’s name is usually determined by one’s parents, so lighten up.
Your co-worker may be unaware that she makes these sounds. Instead of criticizing her, perhaps you should mention this to her. I don’t think you need to make any recordings.
If the noise is distracting others in the office, a group of you should approach a supervisor about it. If not, then I’d recommend earphones for you.
Dear Abby: I’m sure I speak for hairstylists all over the country who style hair for our dearly departed. It is the last time their family will see them, so it is very important that it looks “just right.” PLEASE bring us a picture of your loved one that was taken within the last few years, not one from 20 or 30 years ago. (Yes, Abby, it happens all the time.)