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November 8, 2012

Dear Abby: Veterans appreciate grateful acknowledgment of service

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It was my pleasure to serve our country.

Amanda C., U.S. Army

Disabled Veteran

@text1_boldintro\::Dear Amanda C.: Thank you for your service. And thank you, too, for your helpful suggestions, which are sure to be appreciated not only by civilians, but also by active and retired members of our military.

Readers, as the war in Afghanistan winds down, many thousands of service members are returning home and entering the job market. Please, if possible, honor their courage, dedication and sacrifice by doing your part and providing them with employment. Considering what they have done for us, it is the least we can do to show our appreciation.

Dear Abby: I’m afraid I’m an abusive girlfriend. When I get mad at my boyfriend, I yell at him and call him names. Sometimes I hit him. Even though he really makes me angry, I do love him.

I’m not crazy, but I don’t know how to control myself. It’s not like I’m threatening to kill him.

I don’t want to go to counseling or group classes. I don’t really hit him a lot. I yell more. I also have jealousy issues. What can I do?

Problem Girlfriend

Dear Girlfriend: Your concern is justified, because you ARE an abusive girlfriend. While I applaud your growing self-awareness, it is very important that you understand the reasons you are behaving this way so you can stop. While you may not like the idea of counseling or group anger management classes, it would be much better if you went voluntarily rather than one day having them court-mandated.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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