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August 20, 2013

Dear Abby: Thin-skinned groom berates guest who sent regrets

:Dear Abby: I recently declined a wedding invitation because my spouse and I will be out of town on the date of the wedding. A few days after I sent the RSVP, I got an email from the groom saying he had “suspicions” that I wasn’t attending because I was bitter about not being in the wedding party.

I was shocked by the email. Not only do I not care about who is in the wedding party, I don’t think we’re such close friends that we should have been invited in the first place. I think it’s appalling that he would accuse someone who declined an invitation of having ulterior motives for not going.

I emailed him back, explaining that we will be out of town and how upset and disappointed I am that he would think something like that. Wasn’t what he did a breach of etiquette?

:Appalled In New York

:Dear Appalled: Yes, it was. Your inability to attend the wedding appears to have brought to the surface the groom’s insecurity about his social relationships. I don’t blame you for being appalled. The man’s behavior was inappropriate.

Dear Abby: My sister is 63, divorced, educated, intelligent, self-employed and receives monthly support from her ex-husband. The problem is she takes no responsibility for her health. She’s extremely overweight because she overeats and doesn’t exercise. She complains every day that she feels “terrible.” (I call it self-pitying whining.)

Our other siblings think it is too late to confront her about it. I want to address the issue now, before she gains even more, or has a stroke or heart attack and, quite frankly, won’t be able to care for herself. I don’t want to see the responsibility fall on her three kids or us siblings. It’s not fair. She’s just too lazy to make necessary changes and constantly whines! Your thoughts?

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