:Sibling Standing By
:Dear Sibling: The problem with “confronting” someone is that it usually makes the person being confronted defensive. In a case like this I don’t recommend it. However, a family INTERVENTION might work. If the family members were to get together and, as a group, talk to your sister about your concern for her health, it might be the wake-up call she needs.
No mention of “whining” should be made, but suggest that she might have a touch of depression that could be helped if she brings it to the attention of her doctor. Tell her you all love her, that you’re worried about her, and are willing to help her schedule an appointment with her physician if she’s willing. I think that would be a loving thing to do.
Dear Abby: When my wife and I go to a busy restaurant or a concert where we can pick up last-minute tickets, I often ask her to hop out of the car to find out if the wait times are reasonable or tickets are available while I wait in the car. I do this so I won’t have to find a parking space until we’re sure we will be staying.
My wife says my doing this is tacky. I believe it is efficient. What are your thoughts, recognizing that I usually come up with the short straw on matters of manners? Thanks!
:John K. In Windsor, Conn.
:Dear John K.: Your request makes perfect sense to me. Parking spaces are sometimes hard to find and valet parking isn’t cheap. However, because your wife resents doing this, either she should be the one to drive so you can “hop out,” or tickets and reservations should be made in advance either online or on the phone.
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