:Clean, Free And Living Life
:Dear Abby: As a 30-year member, I can say with certainty that some meeting attendees are grandiose and others are mentally ill. I have not infrequently heard disclosures that I later determined to be not true. The advice for members offered by our NA traditions is, “Take what you can use (in one’s own recovery) and leave the rest of what one hears at a meeting.”
:Charles In Illinois
:Dear Abby: I disagree with your answer to that letter! Yes, this needs to be reported. If the victim died in that incident, it is a cold case and the boy’s parents — if they are still alive — would have never had closure. There may be siblings who would want to know what happened to their brother.
I am not a believer that if you confess to murder in NA, AA or with a priest in a confessional that they are bound not to tell. That is HOGWASH! For some crimes I would say OK, but not something this serious.
:Jim R., Lancaster, Calif.
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