Abby, they are treating Mom, my husband and me like dirt. Mom had no say in the funeral at all. You would think that since she was the mother, the wife would have included her. They have been having parties ever since the funeral and spending the money left and right, while not paying the mortgage on the house.
They have turned my other sister against us, blocked us on social media and cut us off completely. They also turned another part of the family against us. I know it involves drug abuse on the part of all of them. We didn’t do anything to them other than bring forth evidence of what they did and confront them.
I have no idea how to trust or to build a relationship with them again if they ever decide to come back into our lives. It’s painful to deal with a death, and then more trials on top of that. Any advice?
:Brokenhearted In Tampa, Fla.
:Dear Brokenhearted: I’m sorry for your loss, but please recognize that when relatives are as dysfunctional as yours, it’s safer for you, your husband and your mother to MOVE ON. And if they do decide to come back into your lives, for the sake of your sanity, run the other way.
Dear Abby: Are there any letters or topics you won’t touch with a 10-foot pole?
:Dear Wondering: None come to mind. At one point or another, this column has addressed darn near everything and may have offended almost everyone.
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