Last week, a co-worker whom I liked and respected confided to me that she hopes a 102-year-old relative will die soon because she needs to inherit some money. I was floored and had a hard time keeping the shock off my face.
Does work bring out the worst in people? Is it because we all must be here every day? Is it too many people competing for too few resources? Is my hide too thin? Am I in the wrong job?
:The Daily Grind
:Dear Daily Grind: When you spend eight hours a day with people, they usually reveal their core values at some point. In your case, you appear to work with someone who “over-shares.” I don’t think your hide is too thin, and I’m not in a position to tell you if you’re in the wrong job. You may, however, be overdue for a vacation.
P.S. Let’s cross our fingers and hope that relative makes it to 110.
Dear Abby: Please settle a family disagreement. A scratch ticket is given to a friend or relative as a gift. If that ticket is a winner, is there an expectation that the winnings should be shared with the person who gave the ticket?
:Jeff In Massachusetts
:Dear Jeff: A gift is a gift. There is no obligation to share. Alexander Pope wrote, “Hope springs eternal in the human breast,” but if you are hoping you’ll get a cut of the money, don’t hold your breath.
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