I took my friend’s advice, and it turned out to be a godsend when I had to take my 79-year-old mother to the ER after a serious fall. The admitting clerks said they wished everyone would do this. (I also included $100 in cash in a small envelope.) I hope you think her idea is worth sharing.
:Glad I Did In Alabama
:Dear Glad: If the admitting clerks said they wished everyone would do this, then it’s worth a mention in my column. Readers, advance planning such as this could save precious minutes in an emergency.
Dear Abby: Due to an accident I had as a teenager, I can’t father a child. How far into a relationship should I wait to tell a woman this? While I wouldn’t mention it on the first date, I don’t want someone to feel betrayed if she wasn’t informed.
There’s also the issue of finding a woman who’s OK with it. So far, the ones I have dated ended the relationship because they couldn’t accept being childless or adopting.
:Guy Who Needs An Answer
:Dear Guy: Mention it when the subject of children comes up. Not every woman wants children. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.
P.S. If you include the fact that you can’t father a child on your dating profile, it will filter out those women who do. I’m advising you to prepare for an avalanche.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.