I have bitter memories of our relationship, so it’s hard to believe he cared for me as much as he says. He is begging me not to “abandon” him or forget about him, but I don’t want the role of pen pal and provider. How do I share my thoughts without hurting his feelings?
:Reluctant In California
:Dear Reluctant: If you are smart, you won’t respond to him at all. I have printed letters from more than one prison guard who wanted to warn kind-hearted, gullible women that inmates send multiple “solicitations” of this kind in the hope that SEVERAL of the recipients will send money.
You are not responsible for this man’s well-being. Since your breakup, your lives have obviously gone in polar opposite directions. My advice is to keep it that way, for your own sake.
Dear Abby: What is the proper way to dispose of leftover milk in your cereal bowl? To dump it out is wasteful, to spoon it up like soup seems a bit much, and to drink it right from the bowl seems rather cat-like. Does the answer differ if you are in your own kitchen vs. a restaurant or other residence?
:Got Milk In San Francisco
:Dear Got Milk: If you’re in a restaurant, you should not lap liquid from the bowl. If you’re at home — anything goes. And if you have so much milk left in your bowl after the cereal has been consumed, you are pouring too much in and need to adjust the amount.
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