Today, the husband adores his Jack Russell and vice-versa. Man and dog walk 6 miles daily — a morning outing that keeps them both happy. He has rebounded from cancer and from his depression. Wife can only smile, even if she sometimes feels like a third wheel.
Dear Dog Lady,
I have this unconscious habit of showering my shepherd-mix Emma with a string of sappy nicknames. I rarely call her by her given moniker. She’s become my “darling-angel-baby-honey-bear-lambiekins-whatever.”
After I started dating Tom, he seemed a mite miffed when I prodded Emma along on our walk by urging, “C’mon sweetheart” and he answered: “OK.” When Tom realized I was cooing to the dog and not him, he pouted and asked: “What name is left for me?”
A: Dating is a subtle art. Best to stifle the terms of endearment toward Emma — at least until you’re over the initial intimacy phases with Tom. Naturally, when you’re alone with your dog, you can deluge her with “darling-angel-baby-isms.” But, when Tom is around, put a lid on it. If you like the guy and want the relationship to have half a chance, you don’t want him to feel he’s jostling for sweetheart status.
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