I’m concerned that if I tell them we’re seeing each other, I’ll be treated differently because he had been widowed only a short time. I have spent my entire life avoiding the drama machine, and now I’m afraid I’ll be thrown onto center stage. Please help me.
Dear Mouse: Face it, your secret is out. If you prefer not to discuss your private life, all you have to do is say so to those who question you out of curiosity.
But why are you afraid that you’ll be treated differently? Whether your co-worker’s wife died two weeks or two months ago, he is available. Widowers have told me that women have approached them within DAYS of their wives’ funerals. You’re acting like you feel guilty for being happy. For both of your sakes, please stop feeling like you’re doing something wrong.
Dear Readers: I am pleased to offer the traditional Thanksgiving Prayer that was penned by my dear mother, Pauline Phillips. No Thanksgiving would be complete for me without it.
Oh, Heavenly Father,
We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry.
We thank Thee for health and remember the sick.
We thank Thee for
freedom and remember the enslaved.
May these remembrances stir us to service,
That Thy gifts to us may be used for others. Amen.
Have a safe and happy Thanksgiving, everyone!
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.