Dear Wardrobe Mistress: While your impulse to help your friend is laudable, it would be a mistake to suggest she change her image while she is in a “fragile state.” Let some time pass, and THEN make a date for a day of fun, fashion, beauty and some shopping. When she’s stronger and feeling better about herself, mention that now she’s a free woman starting a new life, a new image would help with the transition.
Dear Abby: I have been with my boyfriend for nine months, and I found out that about three months ago, he got nude photos from another girl. I don’t do that. I am hurt and torn on what to do. Please help.
Betrayed In Ohio
Dear Betrayed: If there are no other red flags, don’t waste your time being jealous. Take a lesson from this: The other girl gave him nude pictures of herself, but he’s still with you. If he should ask you to give him similar photos of yourself, don’t do it, because you will gain nothing and could lose a lot of privacy.
Dear Abby: At sporting events when everyone is asked to remove their hats for the national anthem, does this include females? We attend NFL football games and our grandson’s soccer games, and it annoys me when I see women leave their hats on. Doesn’t “everyone” also include them? Shouldn’t they do this to show their respect for our flag and country?
Stickler In Florida
Dear Stickler: Whether a woman’s hat should be removed depends on where it is being worn. In a theater or at a wedding, the hat should be removed as a courtesy if it blocks someone’s view. At a sporting event, a casual hat should be taken off when the anthem is playing. However, at more formal events, if the hat is part of the woman’s ensemble, it usually stays in place.
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