:Dear Abby: I recently bought a used car for myself. It is exotic, and my wife and I really like it. She’s upset with me, however, because I won’t let her drive it unless I’m in the car. I bought it with the intent for us to enjoy it, but I am also concerned with keeping it in good shape.
Because my wife is unhappy, I am undecided about whether to keep the car and stick to my guns, or sell it and live life simply and unfettered. We share everything, but the car is one thing that needs careful attention. Can you give me some advice?
:Doesn’t Want it Dented in Rancho Cordova, Calif.
:Dear Doesn’t Want it Dented: Let’s be honest. On one hand, you say you bought the car for yourself, and on the other, you say you bought it for both of you to enjoy. You can’t have it both ways, so which is it?
I think the time has come to confess to your wife that even though you said the car was for both of you, it’s really your baby. Then make it up to her by buying her that special something she has always wished for.
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