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January 24, 2014

Dear Abby: Not asking for bride’s hand is poor first step for groom

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Chad,” proposed two months ago, but he didn’t ask my parents for my hand in marriage. My parents are upset about it.

When I realized that Chad hadn’t gone to them, I asked him why. He said he was following what his father had done — proposing first and then speaking to the parents. But Chad still hasn’t done it. In fact, he has yet to be around them at all.

How do I get my boyfriend to speak to my parents? They are no longer as angry as they were, but they still would like to talk to him. I spend lots of time with Chad’s family, but I can’t get him to even go to lunch with mine.

Dad said that if Chad doesn’t clear the air with him, he may not bother showing up at our wedding! What do I do, Abby?

Fiancee In A Fix

Dear Fiancee: You appear to be quite young. If I were you, I would take a step backward and see this from your parents’ point of view. It appears that Chad wasn’t entirely honest with you when he gave his reason for not talking to them. Could he be intimidated?

When a daughter marries, most parents want to know something about the young man — not only where he has been, but also what are his plans for the future, including where the two of you will be living and whether he has a job. That Chad is hiding from them isn’t a good sign.

When most couples become engaged, the parents of the bride and groom usually get together and start to form a relationship. If your father hasn’t met your fiance, it makes it harder for your parents to reach out to his. When the in-laws are friendly, it makes for a more harmonious marriage.

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