Dear Abby: My son has a wonderful girlfriend, “Michelle.” They live with my ex-husband and visit my husband, “Daryl,” and me twice a month and on special occasions. Michelle is sweet, caring, smart and funny. The problem is, she doesn’t wear a bra. Ever.
Relatives have commented about it to us at family gatherings because she’s not flat-chested. We already know. It’s obvious. Daryl feels a woman should go without a bra only in the privacy of her own home, and I agree. He thinks I should buy Michelle a bra as a “subtle hint.” I don’t think that’s wise, and I don’t want to offend her.
Because it doesn’t seem to matter to my son, should we continue to keep our opinions to ourselves?
Sees a Need for
Support in Florida
@text1_boldintro\::Dear Sees a Need: Because people are talking, it would be a kindness to say something to Michelle — but DELICATELY, so she doesn’t think you are criticizing her. If you have a good relationship with her, invite her to join you for lunch and, while you’re on the subject of the last gathering, mention that some of the relatives noticed her bralessness. Then tell her that you need to go lingerie shopping and invite her along. Ask her to help you pick out a few pretty things for yourself, and then offer to treat her to some things she likes. She just may take you up on it.
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