Am I aiming too high? I feel the only way to break free from him entirely is to quit my job, but I don’t want to have to resort to this. What would you advise?
Conflicted Out West
Dear Conflicted: I would advise you to take your child and get out of there before the next episode of domestic violence. And, if you truly want to break free entirely from your abuser, that you follow TO THE LETTER the instructions you receive from the people at the domestic violence shelter. And one more thing: Let the person who incurred the fine pay it himself!
Dear Abby: I have a question about office microwave etiquette. I work in a building with one kitchen for 40 people. Often, there is a wait to use the microwave around lunchtime. Recently, I needed to use it and found a warm packaged meal in there, and no owner around. I waited five minutes and came back. It was still there as if it had been forgotten.
I decided to place it on the counter with a napkin covering it so I could use the microwave. When I was finished, no one appeared to claim it, so I put it back in and went on my way.
Did I do the right thing? There was no way to know whose meal it was. What’s proper in this situation? Should I have just waited?
Hungry in Ithaca, N.Y.
Dear Hungry: You handled the situation appropriately. However, had it been me, I would have left the item on the counter so it wouldn’t be touched by the other 38 hungry people in your office who also needed to use the microwave.
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