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September 24, 2012

Dear Abby: Mom says wife is to blame for son’s filthy apartment

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While catching up on reading Dear Abby tonight, I saw a number for an abuse hotline where they will help me with a plan to leave. I have no money, no chance of getting a job. But that number gave me a glimmer of hope. It seems too good to be true, but I’ll make that call. Thank you, Abby.

Beaten Down in Texas

Dear Beaten Down: I’m glad you are making that call to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Part of the reason you feel so hopeless and “beaten down” is that for so many years your abuser chipped away at your self-esteem.

For any other reader who may have missed that column and needs the toll-free phone number, it is 800-799-7233.

Dear Abby:

My good friend “Claire” has two daughters, 8 and 10. Her younger daughter is the same age as my daughter, and they are very close. We spend a lot of time with them and have the girls at our house often.

After the last sleepover, my daughter commented that the sisters argue all the time and it’s not fun having them over anymore. She would like to invite only the younger daughter for a sleepover, but we have put off asking as we are afraid of hurting the older daughter’s feelings by not including her.

Actually, I’m afraid it might hurt the mother’s feelings, too. What’s the best way to invite only one sibling?

Sleepover Nightmare

Dear S.N.:

If the girls are arguing when they’re at your house, you can bet it’s happening at home, too. Talk to Claire and explain what happened and your daughter’s reaction. The older girl should be interacting/socializing with friends of her own.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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