My friends tell me I’m too nice to have let him stay here for so long. I feel it’s the charitable thing to do because he has nowhere to go. I’m also afraid my kids will think I’m being hateful if I kick their father out. Oh my God, Abby, what do I do?
:Dear In Transition: If you want to stay “stuck” in your predicament, allow your former husband to continue living there. If you would like to go on with your life, then recognize that very few men would want to date a woman who has another man living with her.
By allowing your ex to stay with you, you have allowed your children to think your marriage could be repaired. If that is not the case — and search your heart before answering that question — then set a time limit for him to leave.
Dear Abby: My husband and I went to a restaurant last night. We were enjoying our meal when a couple came in and sat at a table close to ours. Soon, a bad body odor wafted over to where we were sitting. It was so strong I couldn’t finish my dinner.
When we got up to pay our bill, we told the manager about it and asked what could be done. He said that was a tough question and he didn’t know the answer. I told him I was going to write to Dear Abby and ask. He said if I got an answer to be sure to let him know. What would you suggest?
Choking In Iowa
Dear Choking: It was not the responsibility of the restaurant staff to “do” anything about your problem. The thing to do was change to a table in another section. If you were questioned about it — which I doubt you would be — the polite response would be that you preferred a table in a different location.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.