Was There Once In Washington
Dear Abby: I had my first child at 21, and while I love my son there are times I wish I would have waited a while. I missed out on college and figuring out who I was and what I wanted to do. My son and daughter turned out to have special needs, so my life has been busy taking care of them. Please tell that teen that having a baby is not at all like it is in TV commercials.
Maria In Illinois
Dear Abby: A mentor to teen boys told me that some of them deliberately try to impregnate girls so they’ll have a “trophy” of how manly and virile they are. The more babies they help conceive, especially without having to be responsible for them, the more bragging can go on in the locker room. Every parent needs to know this behavior is going on. Some of these boys have punched holes in condoms and convinced a reticent girl to have sex — then laughed at her and dumped her when she became pregnant.
Nursing School Student In Wisconsin
Dear Abby: That 15-year-old’s boyfriend’s desire for her to have a baby seems like a control issue to me, and it will set the tone for their relationship. She needs to say no or she will most likely be under his power for the foreseeable future. I have seen this happen too many times with high school girls.
In The Northwest
:Dear Abby: Some states will accuse the young man of statutory rape, and he could end up in jail and be branded a sex offender for life. And the girl will wind up with a baby, no education and no husband to help her. Children have no business having children.