I’m grateful to have a daughter who puts up with my occasional crankiness and complaints. She loves me unconditionally and takes wonderful care of me when needed.
I’d like to ask sons and daughters to be kinder and more patient with their elderly moms. They won’t be around forever.
Grateful Mom In Phoenix
Dear Grateful: I wish you had described more clearly the interactions you observed. What you saw may not have been a lack of devotion to their mothers, but signs of caregiver stress or burnout.
Daughters (and sons) caught in the sandwich generation — earning a living and caring for their children as well as their aged parents — are not always at their best. However, you are correct. These frail, elderly parents need compassion and patience because they won’t be around forever.
Dear Abby: A question was recently raised at a family gathering. If the patriarch of a family is deceased and a man wants to marry his daughter, should he ask permission from her mother?
Curious In Pennsylvania
Dear Curious: It would be a lovely, respectful gesture if he did. But first he should be 100 percent certain that the daughter would like to marry him.
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