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August 24, 2013

Dear Abby: Girlfriend needs attitude check

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Dear Abby: My 26-year-old son has been going with a 23-year-old woman off and on for a year and a half. He has tried to break off the relationship several times. Last weekend she played the “I’ll kill myself” card when he told her he wanted to move on.

I take any threat of suicide seriously. However, she is holding this over his head. I need the right words to use to talk to him about her threat.

:Feeling Lost In Georgia

:Dear Feeling Lost: The woman is trying to manipulate your son using emotional blackmail. He should not attempt to “rescue” her by continuing to see her. During their next conversation, he should let her know the personal responsibility for her well-being is hers and hers alone, and he wants no part of it. If he feels she is truly a danger to herself, he should notify her family so they can help her get the psychological help she needs.

:Dear Abby: Can you please tell me what women are looking for? I keep being told that they feel so “safe” with me, it’s like dating their brother. They know I won’t force them into doing anything they don’t want to do.

:Puzzled In New Mexico

:Dear Puzzled: It looks like the women you’re asking out may have been dating men who forced them into doing things they didn’t want, or may be trying to tell you politely that their interest in you is only platonic.

It’s time to ask some married friends what is causing women to react to you this way. Having been through the dating scene, they should be able to give you some helpful input.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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