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September 11, 2013

Dear Abby: Mom’s brief cellphone video has lingering consequences

:Dear Abby: My 13-year-old son, “Wiley,” was playing a game on my cellphone. I stupidly forgot to delete a short video of myself engaged in a sex act with my ex-husband, “Cliff.” Wiley didn’t confront me or mention it, but given his sudden change in behavior, I’m almost certain he saw it.

The next morning I mentioned it and apologized, hoping we could get past the awkwardness, but Wiley wouldn’t admit this is what’s bothering him. He acted as if he didn’t know what I was talking about. Now he’s shutting down. He won’t talk to me. He’s off in his own world as if I’m a stranger, where a few days before we would laugh, share and trust each other.

I divorced Cliff because he and my son didn’t get along, but in the last six months we have been secretly having an affair and we ultimately want to get back together when Wiley is 18. My son doesn’t approve of him and he’s angry about it.

I’m worried and embarrassed that he saw me doing what I was doing in that few seconds of video, and I don’t want to scar him or have him think differently of me. Wiley’s father has been no help, and I suspect adds fuel to our son’s anger during his weekend visitations. I tried therapy for Wiley — it didn’t help. Do you have any suggestions?

:Mortified In Arizona

:Dear Mortified: I’m printing your letter because, once again, it illustrates the danger of putting videos of a sexual nature on cellphones. I can think of few people of any age who don’t prefer to think of themselves as products of immaculate conception, and your son is no exception.

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