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September 16, 2013

Dear Abby: Condolences to old friend better late than never

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:Concerned Grandma in Eau Claire, Wis.

:Dear Grandma: While I don’t think that allowing a child to run around nude at home is dangerous, I do agree that encouraging a child to run naked and say, “Look at these buns!” is unwise. The response it brings (“Ha, ha, ha — isn’t she cute!”) teaches the little girl that this is a way to get attention. While this may be amusing at 2, it is setting a pattern that will attract the wrong kind of attention when she is 4, 5 or 6. Envision her mooning the first-grade class! Perhaps you can make your daughter-in-law understand by showing her this column. I certainly hope so.

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Dear Abby: I am an asexual college student with a question about dating. When should I tell someone that I’m asexual? I’m not really “out” — mostly because I don’t feel the need to talk about it — but I’m not ashamed of it, either. What do you think?

:New England “Ace”

:Dear Ace: I see no reason to announce it at a first meeting because it’s nobody’s business. The time to tell someone you are asexual is after you have gotten to know the person well enough to be comfortable sharing information. In case you don’t realize it, you are not the only asexual person out there. Because there’s so much emphasis on sex and sexual orientation in our society, it might help you to know that an organization exists which enables asexuals to connect with each other. It’s the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), and you can find it on the Internet at asexuality.org.

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