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September 17, 2013

Dear Abby: Volatile younger sister must reach out for help on her own

:Dear Abby: My younger sister, “Tanya,” is 22 and a single mother. Her son is 2. She’s pregnant again, and this time her baby will be a girl. My sister is very dramatic and emotional. She gets angry easily and has a short fuse. She’s great with her son, except he picks up on her drama and is somewhat dramatic himself. My worry is that girls are more likely to imitate that behavior, and I’m concerned my niece will be just like her mother. Although Tanya has a good heart, her emotional issues have caused her to have horrible relationships with men, as our mother did. When I suggested to my sister that she talk to someone about her anger, she flipped out on me. We were both sexually abused as children. I have dealt with those issues, and she has not. Was I rude to suggest she see someone about her emotional problems?

:Just Trying to Help

:Dear Trying To Help: Suggesting that Tanya discuss this with a professional wasn’t rude; it was a loving thing to do. Your sister reacted defensively because she isn’t ready to admit she needs help. What you must do is hope that one day she will be receptive, but also accept that it may never happen. Not everyone is strong enough to face the fact that they need help or willing to reach out for it.

Dear Abby: How does a person quit being a quitter? At 46, I have realized that this is what I am. I have quit everything — church, jobs, school. If I don’t like a friend, I just drop the person. The same goes for books, exercise — everything! How do you stop the lifelong habit of quitting?

:Quitter in Charleston

:Dear Charleston: I hate to see you give yourself a pejorative label. It’s time to have yourself evaluated because it is possible you suffer from attention deficit disorder — and if you do, there is help for it. If that’s not the case, then start small, give yourself a goal you CAN accomplish and don’t stop until you have reached it. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated, but see it through. Then give yourself another, more difficult assignment and finish it.

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