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October 16, 2013

Dear Abby: Sexually active teens must be responsible for birth control

Dear Abby: My 17-year-old daughter confided that she has become sexually involved with her boyfriend and asked if I would buy condoms for her. I agreed that she should protect herself and bought her a box of 12.

A week later, she informed me that she needed another 12-pack. When I asked why she had run out so quickly, she confessed that she has been supplying them to her girlfriends. Apparently they can’t confide in their moms the way she can with me.

My dilemma is that condoms are expensive and, on one hand, I don’t want to be the one supplying a group of kids. On the other hand, if I can help to prevent an unwanted pregnancy, maybe it’s worth it. What do you think I should do?

Safe Sex Advocate In Illinois

Dear Safe Sex Advocate: If your daughter’s friends are old enough to be sexually active, they and their boyfriends should also be responsible enough to provide their own birth control. Generally, teens do not need the permission of their parents to receive information about it. Because you want to help them avoid unwanted pregnancies (as well as STDs), direct them to the nearest Planned Parenthood Center for low-cost or no-cost birth control and instruction on how to use it. There are 18 of these health centers in Illinois. To find the one closest to you, visit plannedparenthood.org.

Dear Abby: I am the mother of three wonderful girls. The problem is my husband thinks the way to make them love him is by allowing them everything I don’t. I’ll give you some examples:

I don’t let the girls eat anywhere except at the table, so my husband brings treats into the family room. I try to limit high-sugar/fat items like chips and candy, which he buys for them on a regular basis. I also try to adhere to a regular bedtime schedule, while he thinks nothing of stretching lights-out to an hour or more later.

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