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June 6, 2013

Dear Abby: Reader takes action to turn the world into a better place

:Dear Abby: It is easy to watch or read the news and think people are awful and this world is going nowhere fast. At New Year’s I made a resolution to try and DO something about how I view society. I decided I’d do 30 random acts of service for strangers.

I know it may seem small and insignificant, but at least I can say I’m trying to make this a better place to live. I’m hoping it will spread a message of love and caring in a world with too much hurt and violence. Ideally, one or two people will notice and pay it forward.

It’s spring, and so far I have volunteered as a math tutor at a local school and shoveled the snow off a neighbor’s sidewalk. But I’m already falling behind, and I’m struggling to come up with some good ideas. I know you and your readers often have creative suggestions. Can you suggest more acts of service I can do for strangers?

:Trying To Be Nice

:Dear Trying To Be Nice: You could volunteer at a local food pantry. Or find an organization that delivers food to shut-ins and take meals to the clients they serve a couple of days a month.

You could bring a garbage bag with you when you take walks in the morning or evening and pick up paper cups, plastic bags, cigarette butts and candy wrappers that litter our streets and beaches. Or simply acknowledge the presence of others by smiling and saying, “good morning,” “good afternoon” and “good evening” to people you encounter.

Readers, if you’d like to chime in, I’d be interested in your ideas.

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Dear Abby: Two years ago, when I was a senior in high school, a guy became overly attached to me. He shared many very private feelings with me about his lack of friends and severe depression. After trying to help him, first by myself and later with a school guidance counselor and even involving his parents, I decided his problems were too much for me to handle and ended the friendship. I know I hurt him, but I saw no other alternative. After high school we didn’t speak for about a year.

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